All posts by Michael Lewis

I am dedicated to my own evolution as a man, despite my regressions. I have spent many years trying to better myself through various means and over the last couple of years I have been attending Men’s retreats through the Men’s Center of Los Angeles where deep self introspection, awareness and evolution are nurtured and found in the hills of Malibu twice a year. This has been a life saver. Stemming from this experience, I started my own men’s group with some of the most amazing men I know - some of which are co-creators or contributors to this site (see below). I am the blessed husband to a very special woman, Jenniffer who is an esteemed psychologist, and a proud father to my beautiful almost 5 year old daughter, Bailey. Both of them constantly remind me not only of the important things in life but that everything is fleeting- so I should pay close attention. I am a Board Certified Family Practice Physician and play lead guitar for a female-fronted soul-rock band. I also make spiritual beaded jewelry which you can find at I am the luckiest man in the world to be surrounded by a community of amazing men and a wife and daughter who ignite my spirit deeply. Jenniffer’s website: Mens center Los Angeles:

Are You Black, White or Bridge?

Between two poles of thought lies a refuge* from ego. Think of this as a bridge separating two personally identified ideas, if you will. Some people prefer to sit on either side and not seek refuge on the bridge. Where do you stand? Continue reading Are You Black, White or Bridge?

The Heartbeats Of The Hourglass

By: Michael Lewis

Another one of my patients died today.

I feel sad.

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Generation Gap, Where’s The Compassion?



There is a huge generation gap, between our parents’ generation and ours. I don’t just mean temporally. I mean emotionally. Our parent’s generation, for the most part, is from the time where deep discussion was rare. Issues were swept under the proverbial rug and Continue reading Generation Gap, Where’s The Compassion?

Does spirituality have gender roles?


Luckily, it seems that embracing our spiritual being has become much more acceptable in society. It doesn’t seem to be something as taboo as it once was. For the first time in a long time, I think the inhabitants of our earth are beginning to realize that there is something else in this world that isn’t obvious. I am not talking about life on other planets, a man or woman named God who lives in the sky, or an invisible spirit – nor am I ruling them out. However, I do believe that the entity that we are realizing is our own essence which some call spirit, God, inner peace, consciousness, soul, what have you.

We are finally starting to look inwards and ask the man in the mirror if he is satisfied with his life.

Continue reading Does spirituality have gender roles?

Native Selfie


No, there will be no photos taken.  The selfie I am talking about is self-smudging.  For thousands of years, cultures including the Native Americans have used multiple dried herbs and plants as medicine.  Rosemary, Cedar, Sweetgrass and Sage (all types) and more have been widely used in ritual to purify or bless people and places.  Not all smudging herbs or plants perform the same purpose, as different cultures use plants and herbs for different reasons.  Classically, a wrapped smudge stick or loose ingredients are placed in an abalone shell and the smoke is spread around with a feather or smudge fan. The most well known smudging ingredient is white sage (Salvia apiana).

Is there really a correct way to smudge?   I guess that depends on whom you talk to.  For me, the act of smudging brings awareness to my feelings at that moment. If I don’t like what I’m feeling, I can bring awareness to it by giving it my full attention and then treating myself accordingly by smudging- just like taking an ibuprofen for a headache.

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Spiritual Bullies


 No, you won’t get a black eye, or end up in the principal’s office if you are met with one of them, but you may leave feeling confused, judged, “less smarter,” and feel like an emotionally-filled hybrid of rage meets W.T.F.?!  This is what happens when you are blind-sided by a spiritually bully.  They are the ones who believe their spirituality is soooooo much better than yours and that their “vegetarianism strips away layers of psychological and spiritual debris layer by layer, more efficiently than your nut based Paleolithic diet, which will probably lead to your death from a mystical nut infection.”  The conversation, if you can call it that, is usually one sided, spoken in code as you saw above and completely divisive.  It will leave your head spinning and further questioning your intelligence, because the language is flagrantly abolished by shrapnel of past bilayers of emotionally charged ionic fragments which have found its way into our life script virtually taking over our industry-loving, greed based mainframe called the mind…get it?!

Now, I know what you must be thinking – I sound like Continue reading Spiritual Bullies

Did you really Just say that?


Platitudes are defined as a remark or statement, especially one with a moral content, that has been used too often to be interesting or thoughtful.  For example: “The grass is always greener…”

How many times have you shared a very intimate thought, secret or tough time with someone and they answer you with a hollowed-out thoughtless rote  phrase such as that?  Why do people say these things?  What good is going to come from it?  Is there a bit of truth in them?  Do they help you feel better?  Are they all thoughtless?  What do you think?

Let’s go through a list of some favorites in response to an intimate thought. Continue reading Did you really Just say that?



Atelophobia (from the Greek: ατελής, atelès, “imperfect, incomplete” “fear”) is the fear of not being good enough or imperfection.

Oh great, another affliction.  That’s all I need.  So now what?  First, stop defining yourself by your story.  You are not your story – you are the AWE-SOME-NESS underneath your “rubble,” I meant story, my bad.  Shit, do we ever have a happy story? Or is our story just piles and piles of temporal suffering? I think we all have happy stories somehere within, but I think most of us tend to identify with the story that keeps us being victims (whether we are aware of it or not) – another way of saying it – our ego thrives on suffering, so since most of us believe we are our ego (false sense of self) we identify with the things that will keep the ego alive.

In “The Power Of Now” by Eckhart Tolle, he states,  Continue reading Atelophobia



FACT:  71 million Americans have high cholesterol levels
FACT:  The number of people needed to treat to prevent 1 heart attack using a Statin medication (Lipitor, Zocor etc) is 60.
FACT:  Only 1 out of every 3 adults with high LDL cholesterol has the condition under control
FACT:  High cholesterol has no symptoms so many people don’t know that their cholesterol is too high.
FACT:  People with high cholesterol have about twice the risk of heart disease as people with lower levels
FACT:  MORE THAN 50% of people who suffered a heart attack had normal cholesterol levels at the time of their hospitalization
FACT:  Cholesterol isn’t the entire story when it comes to heart attacks…read on.