Stop reading now!
Or continue. It’s your choice!
OK here’s the deal. Do it or don’t do it.
“It” is the fulcrum of your decision making – It is the balance point in the “should I do this or that” thought process. I think people forget that there is always another choice. It’s part of our power as humans. Not all choices however yield better outcomes. Honestly, some choices just suck! This article isn’t about how to make better choices, it’s about knowing we have them in general.
A short case in point: In my practice as a physician, I see people with poorly controlled diabetes, who are sometimes obese and obviously not taking care of themselves. When I discuss with them the findings and lifestyle changes to help improve their diabetes, they usually follow up with a question based in fear that sounds like this: “So Dr. Lewis, are you telling me I can’t eat pizza anymore…I have to cut out everything I like?” etc. They are shocked when I tell them:
“You can eat whatever you want to eat! I am not here to tell you what to do. I am here as your advocate and help you find motivation to make decisions which are best for your own health.”
They sometimes look at me confused because they are expecting a paternal approach, such as, you can’t do this, you can’t eat that, you have to do what I say because I am your physician.
There is always another choice. Maybe 1, 2 or 3 of them – there is always another. But wait, if I eat pizza, my diabetes will get worse! If my boss tells me to do something and I don’t, then he/she will fire me! If I quit smoking, that means I can’t pick up another cigarette again? Remember, choice don’t imply better outcomes.
Having only one choice is an illusion. It’s like being stuck in a mind-created cage.
If you were trapped in a cage, wouldn’t you look for another way out? (not necessarily a physical one)
I believe it’s important to realize that we all have autonomy and we are capable of steering our own wheel of decision (when the ego isn’t). Assessing your own barriers to change is just as important as knowing there is something wrong and without quiet curiosity, you will remain stagnant in your pond of denial – see “THE HIGH DIVE!.”
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